The smaller wedding was becoming popular before the coronavirus pandemic came along but, with us still feeling the effects of this global health issue with limited numbers at weddings and funerals, it could be that the micro-wedding is the only option in the short term. That doesn’t make it a bad thing.
Why opt for a smaller wedding?
The smaller wedding as trends in upcoming nuptials was predicted by wedding and events planners last year, as was the increase in personalising a wedding ceremony so that it tells the couple’s story. And so, opting for a more intimate wedding places you right at the cutting edge of trends.
There are other reasons why you may be opting for a smaller wedding. Aside from financial reasons – the wedding industry in the UK has not been immune to the economic effects of Brexit, for example – many couples are choosing to pare back the guestlist for these reasons…
#1 A more intimate & personal wedding
Larger weddings are a blast. But for some couples, they can feel too big and impersonal. Paring back the guest list means that the people they really want at their ceremony are. All too often, the bride and groom can have their big day ‘hijacked’ by the traditions of a larger wedding, and that includes inviting people they wouldn’t normally to their big day.
#2 A micro-wedding is not so overwhelming
Contrary to what some people think, not every couple is willing or able to be the centre of attention on their big day. There is nothing worse for some people than putting themselves on show or – even worse – speaking in public. This includes the traditional after-dinner speech to an assembled mass of 100+ guests as well as the vows.
The promises you make to each other during your ceremony as powerful and personal. It is no surprise for either the bride or the groom to find saying the words out loud to their loved one an emotional moment.
Not everyone is comfortable with displays of emotions, especially their own and so, a smaller wedding appeals.
#3 You can save money with a smaller wedding
The average cost of a wedding in the UK in 2019 was £31k. For many couples, this is simply out of reach. A smaller wedding, however, doesn’t mean you are doing on the cheap or that it is a bad thing because there is nothing wrong with being practical when it comes to your hard-earned cash.
#4 You can spend more on what’s important with a micro-wedding
Whether that is a high-end wedding photoshoot package or a mass of beautiful wedding flowers, with a smaller wedding you can afford to go all out on the aspects that you love.
The smaller wedding can be a very lavish, extravagant affair but without losing the intimate, personal touch you want.
#5 With a smaller wedding, you have more options
Whether it is the venue or the wedding ceremony itself, when you have a smaller guest list, you’ll find that you have more options.
But what is the ‘average’ wedding guest list? For the ceremony and wedding breakfast, couples invited on average 78 guests, but when it came to the evening reception, the figures were a lot more generous. The average was an additional 98 guests for the evening party.
To accommodate nearly 200 guests, you are looking for a large venue and dependent on what you want, location and budget, this can be a tough find. Reduce this number by half or more, and suddenly you’ll find boutique hotels and wedding venues become available.
#6 Personalise your smaller wedding just as you want it
With a smaller wedding, customising becomes easier. This is especially true when it comes to the wedding ceremony.
If you opt for a celebrant-led wedding, you’ll want to include special elements, the gestures that are a powerful symbol of love, unity and commitment. With a large audience at your wedding, some elements are tough to deliver such as a ring warming. Passing the rings through the hands of all 200 guests will take some time…
A smaller number of guests assembled at your ceremony also helps with organisation too, as well as their involvement. Some couples want their guests to take part in their ceremony and if this is the case, you may find a smaller guests list helps you achieve this.
#7 At a smaller wedding, you get to spend time with your guests
Larger weddings are – we’ll say it again! – an absolute blast.
What couples don’t realise is just how busy and exhausting their wedding day can be.
There is so much to organise beforehand, the pace of which becomes more frantic in the run-up to the big day.
And when your wedding day dawns, you think that you can sit back and relax… but you can’t. You have all your guests to mingle with, an important part of your wedding day.
With a smaller crowd, you can spend time with your guests. Your wedding is about making memories for you both as much as it is about marking the start of your life together as a married couple. And being with your guests is an important part of that.
#8 A wedding people really will remember…
Memories are very important. This isn’t about one-upmanship but about a wedding that is genuinely warm and personal. For many couples, the way they achieve this is with a micro-wedding. Is it the right choice for you?